We Need to Talk about Pussy-Grabbing

Ok. I can’t shut up about this. I can’t.

The problem with all this pussy-grabbing isn’t that the maybe future president (WTF) assaults (demeans) women. It’s that women get assaulted all the time and no one gives a shit. Most don’t even know that it is a thing that happens as often as it does. Look at any audience footage of music festivals. If there is a woman on a man's shoulders, topless or not, you will see hands reach up and grab her boobs.

I have been assaulted many times and I am one of many. It happens less the older I get and I am like, “Finally!” All I had to do was give up and move to Murfreesboro. I will list a few of of those instances here. Stay woke:

• I was told I have “nice tits” at a Michael’s when I was heading to the yarn aisle. When I didn’t take that very well, I was told to take it as a compliment. V complimentary.

• On Beale St, the last time I went to Musicfest, there was a huge crowd of people we were all trying to get through. Hands locked so we wouldn’t lose each other, we made our way to the nearest way out. I was groped, as in my tits were grabbed on purpose, four times. These were not accidents. Brushing up against a boob is an accident. Having a stranger squeeze your boob is assualt. And four different men, in the matter of a few minutes, thought it was totes ok to grab a woman’s breast. Maybe even thought they were entitled to it, since I was dress so provocatively in a t-shirt. There were a lot of elbows to the face that night. I know I for sure stomped the shit out of some assholes foot. Haven’t been to Musicfest since.

• Years of dancing in clubs with numerous penises rubbed up against me. And I am even willing to call that a wash. But when I make it very clear that I am not into that at this moment, there are always a select few that don’t take it well. “Lesbian!!!” Ok. Sure.

• At a party, I made clear to everyone that I was leaving, by myself, to go to bed, which just so happened to be next door. A guy took that to mean I wanted him to follow me to  bed. As I laughed hysterically at his misunderstanding, he continued to force himself into the apartment with a, “You’re so funny! Let me in!” still trying to pull the seductive sleepy eye and trying to get his foot in the door, literally. I have no issue slamming the door on someone’s foot especially when they try and guilt me into letting them in bc they “don’t take rejection well.” Let me tell you what I don’t give a fuck about… It ended, thankfully, with him crying and me actually closing the door in his face and locking the door. A door he continued to knock on for quite some time.

• I’ve been “catcalled” so many times they all blur together into one big “Daaammmnnnn!!!” which then turns into, “bitch!” when I ignore the damn. Sometimes I would respond, at one point when someone was commenting on a friend’s ass I stopped and asked, “Do you think she is going to come and talk to you now???” They didn’t have much to say after that.

This is nothing. These are very tame examples of what women go through every day. I think I am one of the luckier ones that this is all I have experienced so far.

Ladies, you have got to stop being nice! You don’t owe anyone anything. You can come off as a bitch and everything is going to be alright. I have no problem with anyone thinking I am mean or a bitch. I have worn the badge proudly for years. I may be a bitch, but I am not going to let a man rub his dick on me just to be a nice person. I’m not going to not elbow someone in the face when they grab my boob in a crowd of people to not hurt someone’s feelings. They didn't give a shit about my feelings. Many moons ago, when I went to clubs, I was the designated, “She doesn’t like you, please go away.” My friends are wonderful, nice people and didn’t want to insult or offend anyone by walking away of their own accord. Insulting overzealous strangers is where I shine. #blessed

So yeah, grabbing women by the pussy is a thing that happens. A lot. Maybe not that exactly but something similar and equally revolting. And it is NOT OK for the possible future leader of any country to think this is ok behavior. And by voting for him, you are saying it’s fine. Maybe the colors that you shine are surely not your best… #crossfade

Celebrities are NOT Better than You: A basket of Deplorables

New (possible) child molestation scandal out involving a “household name who is revered by millions.” There is a lot of speculation and of course none of this has been proven, yada yada. The one name of a victim is Corey Haim. It would make sense since he had drug problems all of his life and died young from drugs. I see it all the time on Intervention. But the problem here isn’t that someone molested a child, though that is obviously a large problem. It’s our unwillingness to believe that any celebrity can do something so horrible. Especially a good actor. Like playing Iron Man means you don’t molest kids (allegedly, in the comments of the article they speculate it could be RDG which doesn’t surprise me but it’s supposed to be a “family man,” and of all the ways you can describe RDG, “family man” isn’t one of them).

The list can go on for days of famous people that are still famous who are terrible people. I will list the ones now that I no longer support, listen to, watch or otherwise. You can cut people out of your lives and I have cut these out of mine, I am sure they are all heartbroken:

Woody Allen: Ya’ll he married his adopted daughter. Just think about that for a second. Of how fucked up that is. And he is still making movies. And people still revere him as this great person/genius who makes great films. Stop it. He took advantage of a child. Bye.

Roman Polanski: Pedophile who is, again, still revered for making great movies, being a genius director, whatever. He rapes children. End of story.

John Lennon: Musical genius? I personally despise the Beatles and their music but people seem to worship them. Especially this fuckass who beat women and children.

Chris Brown: if you still listen to anything he is on, you can go kill yourself right now. I love Nikki Minaj. Adore her. I won’t listen to any song of hers that he is on. And I kind of dislike her for even considering putting him on any song. (I still love you, tho!)

Sean Penn: He is a world-renowned asshole. Woman abuser both mentally and emotionally. Google “Sean Penn Madonna” and read all the fucked up shit that he did to her while they were married. If you don’t want to google, he hit her in the head with a baseball bat while she was tied to a chair. Yet women still seem to want to be in a relationship with him. People still see his movies. People Ooh and Ahh at the charity work he has done. Fuck this guy and his charity work. You can cure childhood cancer and then go home and beat your wife and you are still a shitty person.

Michael Jackson: Alleged child molester but he did it. You just know he did. You aren’t supposed to speak ill of the dead, but it’s ok if they molested children. Hope to be saying the same for Jared Fogle one day soon. (Also, stop supporting Subway. You know they knew about all of his actions and did nothing.)

Bill Cosby: I mean, come on.

Mel Gibson: Ditto for this dick.

Louis CK: This one hurt but not enough for me not to be done with him. And, again, this is all alleged. Several women comedians have alluded to CK making them watch him jerk-off in order for him to help their careers. I can’t even… He is preying on women who need his help. It’s deplorable. He is funny, sure. But this is the very definition of sexual harassment and he has been getting away with it, with no end in sight. And it has been brought to his attention and he is just like, “Everyone has their things…” Ok. Sure.

Bill Murray: Don’t look at me like that. He’s been accused more than once for spousal abuse, abandonment and adultery. Though, sadly, I can’t really cut out everyone who has committed such crimes as adultery bc that would be every celebrity.

Dr. Dre: Beats the shit out of women in front of people. No one cares. He is a great rapper and good at his job of selling overpriced headphones. He’s also a piece of shit. Beats by Dre, indeed.

Clint Eastwood: If there isn’t a white hood in his closet I would die of shock.

Jeremy Renner: He seems like the most deplorably sexist of human beings. He has made his thoughts on feminism and females in general known many times. He referred to Black Widow as a whore who fucked all the Avengers. Ok. Great.

Eric Clapton: Racist

Russell Crowe: Rageaholic dickshit.

Rob Lowe: He isn’t Chris Traeger as much as we want him to be. Child molestation allegations, abuse towards women, etc.

R. Kelly: Pissed on a child. That's enough.

OJ Simpson: Serial wife-abuser. Non-convicted Murderer. Racist against his own race.

This is just a handful of the people that I detest the most. I am sure I am leaving out many. And this list does contain all men I realize, but you know my thoughts on men in general. That may make me a sexist.

Stacey Bryan: Sexist.

And that is fine (please still support me tho). But I don't beat women or abuse children.

I think we all need to take a look at celebrities and the people that they are and not the work they put out. They deserve our scorn just as much as anyone else. Maybe more so b/c they are using their celebrity to hide what they are and that is not cool.