We Need to Talk about Pussy-Grabbing

Ok. I can’t shut up about this. I can’t.

The problem with all this pussy-grabbing isn’t that the maybe future president (WTF) assaults (demeans) women. It’s that women get assaulted all the time and no one gives a shit. Most don’t even know that it is a thing that happens as often as it does. Look at any audience footage of music festivals. If there is a woman on a man's shoulders, topless or not, you will see hands reach up and grab her boobs.

I have been assaulted many times and I am one of many. It happens less the older I get and I am like, “Finally!” All I had to do was give up and move to Murfreesboro. I will list a few of of those instances here. Stay woke:

• I was told I have “nice tits” at a Michael’s when I was heading to the yarn aisle. When I didn’t take that very well, I was told to take it as a compliment. V complimentary.

• On Beale St, the last time I went to Musicfest, there was a huge crowd of people we were all trying to get through. Hands locked so we wouldn’t lose each other, we made our way to the nearest way out. I was groped, as in my tits were grabbed on purpose, four times. These were not accidents. Brushing up against a boob is an accident. Having a stranger squeeze your boob is assualt. And four different men, in the matter of a few minutes, thought it was totes ok to grab a woman’s breast. Maybe even thought they were entitled to it, since I was dress so provocatively in a t-shirt. There were a lot of elbows to the face that night. I know I for sure stomped the shit out of some assholes foot. Haven’t been to Musicfest since.

• Years of dancing in clubs with numerous penises rubbed up against me. And I am even willing to call that a wash. But when I make it very clear that I am not into that at this moment, there are always a select few that don’t take it well. “Lesbian!!!” Ok. Sure.

• At a party, I made clear to everyone that I was leaving, by myself, to go to bed, which just so happened to be next door. A guy took that to mean I wanted him to follow me to  bed. As I laughed hysterically at his misunderstanding, he continued to force himself into the apartment with a, “You’re so funny! Let me in!” still trying to pull the seductive sleepy eye and trying to get his foot in the door, literally. I have no issue slamming the door on someone’s foot especially when they try and guilt me into letting them in bc they “don’t take rejection well.” Let me tell you what I don’t give a fuck about… It ended, thankfully, with him crying and me actually closing the door in his face and locking the door. A door he continued to knock on for quite some time.

• I’ve been “catcalled” so many times they all blur together into one big “Daaammmnnnn!!!” which then turns into, “bitch!” when I ignore the damn. Sometimes I would respond, at one point when someone was commenting on a friend’s ass I stopped and asked, “Do you think she is going to come and talk to you now???” They didn’t have much to say after that.

This is nothing. These are very tame examples of what women go through every day. I think I am one of the luckier ones that this is all I have experienced so far.

Ladies, you have got to stop being nice! You don’t owe anyone anything. You can come off as a bitch and everything is going to be alright. I have no problem with anyone thinking I am mean or a bitch. I have worn the badge proudly for years. I may be a bitch, but I am not going to let a man rub his dick on me just to be a nice person. I’m not going to not elbow someone in the face when they grab my boob in a crowd of people to not hurt someone’s feelings. They didn't give a shit about my feelings. Many moons ago, when I went to clubs, I was the designated, “She doesn’t like you, please go away.” My friends are wonderful, nice people and didn’t want to insult or offend anyone by walking away of their own accord. Insulting overzealous strangers is where I shine. #blessed

So yeah, grabbing women by the pussy is a thing that happens. A lot. Maybe not that exactly but something similar and equally revolting. And it is NOT OK for the possible future leader of any country to think this is ok behavior. And by voting for him, you are saying it’s fine. Maybe the colors that you shine are surely not your best… #crossfade

We Need to Talk about The Murder of Johnny B*

Ok let's talk about it. The CBS 2-night special was by far the best one about this case. And it is now really obvious John Ramsey went on the defense on A&E before this aired.

- The ransom note quoted the movie Speed. I mean...

- The pad and pen were from the house and the practice notes were in the house. It took 21 min to write bc it was 3 pages long which never happens.  Kidnappers tend to do their work quickly and they also don't kill the kidnapped. No ransom for dead bodies. Patsy wrote the note. Big fat duh.

- The first place John Ramsey goes when let loose is to her body in the basement even though he is instructed to start upstairs. He was jittery before this. Almost like he was anxious about finding the body he knew was there.

- Crime scene was contaminated from the jump by John Ramsey. I feel like that's something everyone on earth knows. You find a body, even if it is your daughter, you leave it alone. Then he brings her upstairs and covers her with a blanket and then she's moved again.

-  Oh shit! They duplicated the house, yo!!!

- The Ramseys refused to cooperate with law enforcement instantly. If your daughter is dead or missing, you cooperate fully. All of their friends gave full cooperation until they were told by the Ramseys to not speak to anyone. Wouldn't even let Werner Spitz in the house.

- Patsy is described as a pageant girl 4 lyfe and she wore the same outfit from the night before on the day of the murders.  Ok.

- You didn't need to have a lot of strength to inflict the damage to her skull. Maybe you just needed the strength of a 9yo.

- Talked to CNN before they ever spoke to the police. Formal interview with the police took 4 months.  Who does that and why were they even allowed to do this?

- Lou Smit is a fucking moron.

- A cobweb was still on the window that "the intruder" came through. The taser theory has been debunked many times and I'm glad they proved it here. It was from a train track and who loved trains...

- No fingerprints on the batteries in the flashlight. WEIRD! I know I wipe my fingerprints clean on all batteries.

- He keeps saying "panty" and I want to die. More importantly, DNA was found on underwear that had never been worn. Bye, DNA evidence. You fucking bastard. False DNA evidence got these dicks off.

- Ok. Well Burke would smear poop all over his sister’s things. And there was a softball sized turd in her bed. I have never heard of such. That is some fucked up sibling rivalry. When he is interviewed, he acts like a smug, entitled brat. Not a brother whose sister was killed in his own home. It’s almost like he wasn’t afraid anyone would come after him.

- Pineapple in milk?! What??? That is baffling in and of itself.

How were these fucking people never prosecuted?! If not for the murder (since the son did that) but for covering up a murder. Welcome to have a shitload of money and influence in a small, well-to-do town. That is how they got away with it. That is how Burke Ramsey got away with it and is still living free. And the grand jury voted to indict and the DA was like, “Nah.”

At first, from reading about it and hearing about it and looking into it, I thought Patsy was did it in anger for JonBenet wetting the bed. Now I think we all know that Burke did it. There is too much there. Thanks for solving a case 20 years later that the Boulder police pretty much fucked up completely and then ignored all evidence. I blame Lou Smit for that. Wasting everyone’s time with this intruder nonsense. Anger. So much anger.

*Johnny B was her nickname within the family